For sure it is a real challenge. I myself found that by doing that instead of focusing on setting it first with others, made it much less challenging to break the people pleasing cycle. I like to ask myself : what do you need? What do you want? How does this benefit you? and will it please Allah when I am in a situation that may lead to people pleasing. How could starting with boundaries with yourself make it easier?
I’m a people pleaser and four decades into my life on this earth am only just learning to set boundaries. Not an easy feat!
For sure it is a real challenge. I myself found that by doing that instead of focusing on setting it first with others, made it much less challenging to break the people pleasing cycle. I like to ask myself : what do you need? What do you want? How does this benefit you? and will it please Allah when I am in a situation that may lead to people pleasing. How could starting with boundaries with yourself make it easier?